What does it mean to live well?

Our perspectives on “living well” are probably as diverse as the creatures of the sea. Our views on luxury though may be less varied. When you think of luxury, what appears in your mind? It's typical to have images of designer labels, splendor, extravagance, exclusivity, privilege, status and maybe even divisiveness. Most of these images appear to be hinged on “ownership” of the nicer things of life.

We all love nice things. Many of us (girls especially) enjoy shopping. I’m so guilty of this. There is absolutely nothing wrong with shopping or really appreciating nice things but at the back of our minds,

it’s important for us to remember that moderation is key to a balanced life.

Living in a digital age where we’re constantly bombarded and even distracted by a million and one different items to purchase or drool over, we have to check ourselves sometimes to make sure we’re not placing too much value on material things. I say this because when we do, it’s almost impossible to be content; as we simply cannot physically own everything we desire, or buy all that is sold to us. And even if we could, who says such ownership guarantees happiness?

Numerous studies have demonstrated that the more materialistic you are, the lower your personal wellbeing and psychological health. 😳 In other words, there’s actual proof that we’re actually unhappy when we place too much value on these material objects.

This shouldn’t be entirely surprising. Research shows that when we spend money on actual experiences instead of things we achieve longer-lasting satisfaction. Unlike material wealth, enriching experiences are positively linked to happiness.

When I am on my deathbed, I don’t think I will be thinking about a nice pair of shoes I had or my beautiful house. I am going to be thinking about an evening I spent with somebody when I was twenty where I felt that I was just absolutely connected to them.
— Tom Ford

Even designer-extraordinaire, Tom Ford, gets the idea. So the next time you’re about to spend some good bucks shopping for a nice bag, a pair of shoes you’ve been feening over (or buying on impulse 🙈), just maaaybe you should consider investing in an experience that you know you would absolutely enjoy. At the very least train your mind to substitute the continuous itch to acquire material things with acquiring enriching experiences.

Yankari Game Reserve in Bauchi @tripzapp

Yankari Game Reserve in Bauchi @tripzapp

You’ll be shocked how we can live better simply by paying just a little bit more attention to our personal quality of life.

Scratch and Social, Lagos @rahila411 @msmeeshbda

Scratch and Social, Lagos @rahila411 @msmeeshbda

Luxury is about experiencing the beauty and sweetness of life. It can be about savoring the best moments and celebrating even the little things. It could be making time to witness a gorgeous sunset, spending quality time with your favorite people or person doing something unusual that you all enjoy.

Eko Atlantic, Lagos @akinkunle.a

Eko Atlantic, Lagos @akinkunle.a

Kayak Lagos @bidsingraceland

Kayak Lagos @bidsingraceland

When last did you run and scream on top of your lungs just because?! I do this all the time, trust me it's so liberating. Forget the crazy stares you may get. 😧😂 

  • When last did you go to the beach?
  • Discover a new city nearby or really far away? 
  • When last did you listen to great music that takes you back to an amazing moment?
  • When last did you eat a special meal you love but haven’t eaten in ages? 
Terra kulture, Lagos @deinte

Terra kulture, Lagos @deinte

Living well requires intention, attention and appreciation which thankfully can all be achieved at minimal cost! And under this Buhari government, isn’t this refreshing?! 😌😏

Don’t just live! Learn to love your life.

Live life voraciously, devouring it with fervor, enthusiasm and focus, scooping up any left over crumbs with a perspective that not even a second should be wasted.

Embracing this perspective, my idea of good living is: smelling, eating not just any popcorn, but sugar popcorn at the movies. It's sipping some good chai tea, eating banana-nutella-dulce-de-leche crepes or reading a great book with a nice scented candle, a soft blanket with Norah Jones playing in the background. A nice soak with candles and jazz music also makes me feel like life isn’t bad at all.

What is your idea of living well? And remember, we're not including material wealth this time.

Ok, spill!